One who has acute knowledge about socialising in different situations, and one who is also comfortable being with oneself – i.e one who embraces solitude and learns to spend time with oneself is truly invincible.
While due to the exposure to social medias, and other platforms, more and more people seem to be comfortable with the former, the latter seems to fail many people and by nature is more hazardous to them. In fact some people have learnt to be able to socialise without any Social Medias, but they struggle every day in the company of their own selves.
When asked about what advice he would give to young people, famous Russian Filmmaker Andrei Tarkovsky said – “I’d like to say only that they should learn to be alone and try to spend as much time as possible by themselves. I think one of the faults of young people today is that they try to come together around events that are noisy, almost aggressive at times. This desire to be together in order to not feel alone is an unfortunate symptom, in my opinion. Every person needs to learn from childhood how to spend time with oneself. That doesn’t mean he should be lonely, but that he shouldn’t grow bored with himself because people who grow bored in their own company seem to me in danger, from a self-esteem point of view.”
Often times, due to some subjective changes in lifestyles, socialising and learning solitude seem to be a choice people have to make, and choosing one is always tough. But people need to learn to move with the stream. If you haven’t learnt to be comfortable with yourself, it is fine to take some space, learn new skills, practice art or go on solo trips. If that doesn’t work, don’t worry, you’ll learn it in your own way. I, personally, try to “marinate” my mind, with moments which were a learning curve, relationships which had a sense of “Me” in it ,and with Words and Movie moments which are close to my heart.
Also, the ones who learn to embrace the walls around them, seem to be in a better space than the ones who strive desperately every day to break those walls. The idea that your introverted phases are worse than the extroverted ones is delusional and in long term can be self-destructive. What defines you changes and so don’t try to surf upstream. A comfortable Ambivert is often a person who has seen both the extremes and who doesn’t shy away from being what he/she is.
In any day, trying to socialise as well as spending time for oneself is going to be a hell of a task. In a time when people find it hard to have a proper work-life balance, allocating time for socialising and for ourselves is indeed almost impossible, but that doesn’t trivialise the importance of a work-life balance, socialising and the “ME” time in our lives.